April 12, 2011 by themommahen
One of the biggest challenges I face as a parent is remembering that my job is more about the future than the present. It’s so easy to get caught up in the emotion of the minute or the argument of the day, I forget that it’s really about teaching my children how to act and react as they get older. Because I’m not always going to be there to tell him to apologize for kicking her or to remind her that it’s rude not to put away your game when Mommy’s friend says hello and wants to meet her. (Can you tell what happened in my day today?)
That’s a lot of pressure and a huge responsibility. But it also puts those everyday tantrums and arguments into perspective and makes them easier to deal with, because it’s never them against me. (Okay, so it sometimes feels like it, but what is wrong with me? The oldest one is barely five!)
These moments are teachable moments. Our children are learning, and we are teaching them. It reminds me of a post by my cousin, Not The Maid (Cool name, right? How was that one possibly available?!), where she talks about the things that keep her up at night. Ditto.
In the end these are just moments. Minutes. Gone in an instant. Many of them add up over time. So I’m gonna try my best not to get too caught up in the next one, and see what I learn.